Honorable Intent

Bliss in Marriage - Advice for Longevity

If you want a love that lasts forever than it will take some work, but it is definitely a realistic expectation when you walk down the aisle. The following are some tips that can help you achieve the marriage that you deserve.

Continue the love through the problems - Be sure to keep giving love, don't withhold it, during hard times or when issues arise. Don't withdraw the love, it's a big mistake made often by couples, it's destructive. Honesty is best - Don't lie or be deceitful, your relationship won't survive errors made in this area. Honesty will allow your relationship to continue, sometimes it's difficult but it's worth it.

Resist being the judge - If your spouse tells you things about their life or how they're feeling avoid the urge to make a judgement about what you just heard. They need to be able to open up to you without the judgement. Maintain flexibility - Over time the relationship will change and the people in it will change, don't be inflexible about this reality. Create together time - All couples need to step out of the stresses of everyday life and have time just for each other, this will be very beneficial for long term relationships.

Your marriage always number one - No matter what the needs of your family of origin or of you children, always keep your marital relationship number one in importance and think of that before everything else. Forsaking all others - Remember your marriage is a life long commitment to each other. When you are having difficult times, don't turn to another for comfort and support. Doing this will create more problems. You need to be investing in your relationship not turning your back on it. Hold on - There will be times in your relationship when it is anything less than great, but honoring the commitment to each other is all you have. Hold on tightly and most things will resolve.

Marriage building - After a while life becomes repetitive and the marriage lacks the intensity due to pressures from the world. This indicates you need to take some time away, a weekend or longer, to renew the feelings you both share with each other. Communicating - Losing communication is one of the most deadly issues for a relationship so it's a big deal to concentrate on. If there are problems then talk about them, don't ignore these issues. Talk about how you feel and what you think on a ongoing basis to help maintain good communications.